Be careful. We all know her. We’ve all heard her talk about how fit she still is, and how she went on three dates last week, and how online dating actually really is innovative and cutting edge. Yet, she’s crabby, and brings her personal issues to work. She’s anxious, and just being around her, I feel like I need to be on guard. Something about this makes me cringe and cling to my youth. (The male version of this person exist too…but I just notice the female more).
And I’m not really sure if she’s in your court. I’m not really sure how she truly feels about you. If you are smart, young and driven…you probably are a “disruption” in a way…and therefore, beware…
This sucks. It is crappy that these are the types of female role models that exist in middle management across many companies in the world. Yes, upper management, way up there, may have a rock star team of women to watch, read about and try to emulate, but what about the people we interact with day to day? The people we surround ourselves with are the ones who rub off on us most. These are the ones we truly watch.
I am just learning to golf. I went on a golf outing with my dad and three of my male section mates from business school… As we played, I lagged behind, mostly because all four men are seasoned golfers…They were all very helpful, and patient with me…but then my dad said something that stuck- more for life lessons, than golf necessarily.
Dad: “You should watch how a woman plays…You need to watch her stance, and how she balances on her heels… you need to see how she swings and how her body moves. Watching us is good, but you may get some great tips by watching another woman”.
It sucks that the 40-something, single woman in the office is the reference many of my peers can all relate to with an eye-roll. We need less of that, and more of the “rock-star, knock-out chick who knows what’s up” reference. She exists. She’s out there. We just need many more.
I want to watch that one. I want to watch her stance and how she “balances”. I want to watch her hit it out of the park over and over. I want to adjust my swing to be just like hers…and then help others play my game…especially if they are on my team.